2020 a Year of Love

Updated: Aug 5, 2020


Every year I choose one word or intention instead of making a New Year’s resolution. In 2018, it was Happiness, 2019 was Authenticity, and 2020 is the year of Love.




This year I’m going to do something different, something that scares me beyond belief. I am going to open up and share my journey with you as I work through the questions and emotions I experience. I am no love expert, nor am I going to try and give advice on this topic. I want to share my real thoughts and feelings with you.


Like many of us, I suffer from putting others needs before my own; I allow other people's judgment to affect how I look at myself. I build walls to protect myself from feeling hurt. I want to lean in and be vulnerable to experience the joy and sorrows: to love fully with an open heart.


The goal for this year is to be able to look in the mirror and wholeheartedly love the reflection. I want to forgive those who have hurt me. I want to embrace my fears and to define what I need.


My journey has already begun; I feel raw and exposed. I also feel a weight lifted off my shoulders and can see the light at the end of the tunnel.


“Stage One – Let Go”
  • Forgive

  • Fight fair


Reading List

Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience…

Triggers: Creating Behaviors That Last

Women Who Love Too Much


“Stage Two - Look Inwards”
  • Learn to trust my instincts and others

  • Let go of my fears


Reading List

The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult…

Betrayal and the Path of the Heart

The Bonds that Make Us Free


“Stage Three – Loving Myself”
  • Define what I need and learn how to ask for it

  • Set healthy boundaries

  • Focus on taking care of myself


Reading List

All About Love

Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap

Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life


“Stage Four – Giving and Receiving Love”
  • Accept my loved ones for who they are

  • Learn to support those around me in solving their problems and not doing it for them

  • Open my heart to others


Reading List

Communion: The Female Search for Love

French Women Don't Sleep Alone: Pleasurable Secret to…

The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

The Five Love Languages of Children