& Be FEARLESSLY AUTHENTIC
Authenticity, what does it mean? For me, being Fearlessly Authentic means that you are crystal clear on who you are and wake up everyday knowing what your purpose is in life
When you are Fearlessly Authentic, life becomes more enjoyable. You learn how to say "NO" to things that do not bring you joy or any closer to crushing your goals or align to your values and priorities. This leaves you saying "HELL YA" to everything else that does.
Embracing who you are is a journey, one that may need to be revisited many times. My goal is to give you a roadmap so that you can embrace this journey to become Fearlessly Authentic with easy steps to follow.
Authenticity, what does it mean?
Brené Brown author of The Gifts of Imperfection says, “Choosing authenticity means
cultivating the courage to be emotionally honest, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of strength and struggle and connected to each other through a loving and resilient human spirit nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we let go of what we are supposed to be and embrace who we are”.
As you outlined your values, priorities, and goals, you will notice that your true self will naturally emerge.
Step 1 Defining Values
Our core values help create the future we want by setting our priorities and goals. In Dare to Lead by Brené Brown, she provides a simple exercise to help you define your values.
How to Define Your Values
Highlight values that you identify with
Narrow your list down to 10 values
Again, narrow your list down to 5
And Again, to 2 values
*Its ok to google the definition of the words, I did, and I found the process insightful!
**I also came across this survey at www.viacharecter.org to help define my values.
Step 2 Defining Priorities
Our lives today are busier than ever. So often, we hear how setting boundaries and saying “no” is crucial to living a successful and happy life.
Having a clear idea of your priorities and goals becomes so much easier to be able to "NO", and "Hell Yes" to the important projects and activities in your life.
How to Define Your Priorities
Grab something to write with and find a quiet place where you will be undisturbed for 10 – 15 minutes.
Close your eyes and picture that you have lived a long and beautiful life; your friends and family are gathered around to celebrate your life. It is time for three people to speak about you.
Write down who is the first person to come up and speak and what they say. Do this again a second and a third time.
Now write your three priorities based on your answer above. Click here for examples.
Step 3 Defining Goals
Once I had a clear view of my values and priorities, I was able to look back at my goals. I realized that some of my goals did not line up with who I wanted to be and it was easy for me to let those goals go. I also added in some new goals that excited me and aligned with my values and priorities.
How to Define Your Goals
Grab a piece of paper (yes writing down your goals is essential)
Number the paper 1-10
Please write down your goals, no matter how big or small
Choose one goal to focus on until you complete it
Every day grab a piece of paper or a notebook and write down your goals
When your values, priorities, and goals align, you begin to live a FEARLESSLY authentic life. Your choices and actions come from a real place. We let go of our "shoulds" and replace it with things that bring peace and joy. This, my friends, is the beginning to how we stop dreaming and start living.
If you are on the same journey, I encourage you to read Brené Brown’s books. She suggests that you read them in this order:
The Gifts of Imperfection—Be you.
Daring Greatly—Be all in.
Rising Strong—Fall. Get up. Try again.
Remember to stay curious, be brave, and always believe in yourself.
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