Updated: Nov 5, 2020
Raise your hand if you are finding it harder to deal with everything going on? What can we do to calm our nerves and relieve some anxiety?
Some common techniques to help relieve Anxiety are:
· Avoid caffeine, nicotine,
· Get out into nature
· Get regular sleep
· Exercise regularly
· Practice yoga or meditation
· Drink teas with herbs that are known to help relax you
· Get clear on what is causing you the anxiety
· Assessing the problem and from a scale of 1-10 of how serious it is
· Analyzing worst-case and best-case scenarios
· Creating and executing a plan to help overcome the problem
· Put your head down and focus one step at a time
You are not alone: Anxiety attacks, nightmare, and sleepless nights
What if these technics are not working? What else can you do?
This was the question I was asking myself earlier this month. For weeks I have been having nightmares.
Yes, you read that right, I’m a full-grown adult and am waking up every night from horrifying nightmares. The nightmares change every night, but the theme is always recuring. I need to save my children, my husband, my family, and my friends… But I never can. Everyone is always just out of my reach (Yes, I very much understand this is about the loss of control).
Soon after the nightmares started, the nightly panic attacks began. I laid awake at night, and when I finally fell asleep I would awake in a jolt of panic or ripped from a nightmare.
I suffered in silence for weeks. Why? Because I have trouble asking for help. I have a very
a brave friend who shared how she was suffering from nightmares too on Facebook and that got me thinking: I am not alone, and neither are you.
Finances, the economy, the election, keeping my family safe from covid, homeschooling, my children’s well-being, and the other “every day” normal life events that we go through.
As the months go on, all of the above has started to weigh on me in ways that I did not even grasp, until it started to leak out in my sleep.
What anxiety and fear taught me about being mindful
I know how to handle anxious “feelings”. I have had my fair share of “difficult” times in the past and have suffered silently with anxiety for as long as I can remember. I rely on digging deep and a handful of technics to help manage anxiety.
But this time it was different. I worked on my plan. I was focusing on one step at a time, but I was still filled with anxiety.
It is fair to say that we are all dealing with an immense amount of stress right now, and how we choose to funnel out stress and anxiety can help us through this really difficult time. Which why I thought that it was so important to say that it is ok to ask for help if you need it.
It is ok to get help
Too often in our society, we don’t want to speak about our need to work with therapists or take medication to deal with anxiety. I want to say right now, right here I think you are
extremely brave if you make the choice to take care of yourself, however that looks.
It was only after a 50-minute tear-filled session with my therapist that I finally was able to get my first good night's sleep. It was talking (crying) through what was causing me anxiety, and the healthiest thing that I could do was to sit and be with my anxiety.
As hard and uncomfortable as that sounds (and is) not trying to control, hide or fix your anxiety is all that you may need to help start the process of releasing that negative energy.
Do it Your Way
A friend once shared with me that when she was filled with anxiety. She reminded herself that she is ok. This feeling will pass, and she will feel better again.
Another friend told me that she rates her anxiety on a scale of 0-5, a zero would mean that everything is ok, and 5 would mean her life is in danger. She told me that ranking her anxiety allowed herself to realize that she was safe, it gave her control.
Another friend opened up about how she uses her anxiety as her body’s warning signal to show that something is not right. Which allowed her to focus her attention on what was causing her the anxiety and helped her through some hard times. She felt that it allowed her to see her anxiety as helpful instead of attacking her.
Beautiful Friends, if you are finding yourself dealing with anxiety it is ok to reach out for help. Call a friend, a family member and if you have the means, reach out to a therapist (Most of our sessions are via Zoom)
You deserve to have a safe place to work through your feelings, to be heard, to cry, yell or say F you 2020.
You deserve to know that this sucks, and you are not alone if anxiety is showing itself in the forms of nightmares, rashes, panic attacks, or any of the other ways it likes to manifest.
Be gentle with yourself, be kind to your neighbors, and please reach out for help if you need it.
I promise you, you are not alone.
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