What's Your Love Language?




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I believe that Love is not a feeling but an action. It's important to show our loved ones that we care about their needs. Each person is beautifully unique and receives love in their own way. To create a closer relationship with your partner, children, and friends, it is essential to define what Love looks like for them. Once we understand what Love looks like to the crucial people in our lives, we then need to take the time to learn and speak their love language.


Keep Your Love Tank Full

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A few years ago, I came across the book The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts and The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman. These books shared the secret on how to create a strong relationship with those around me. I started watching my loved ones, trying to figure out what their primary love language was.


Earlier this year, I found that they had a quiz! I was so excited. I took the quiz. I had my kids take the quiz and shared it with my whole office. Today I get to share it with you! Click here to find out what your love language is.


5 Love Languages

Gary Chapman describes that there are five different ways that you can show Love. You will find that one or two languages will be more influential and will fill one's love tank more than others.


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1. Words of Affirmation

Showing and receiving Love through words of appreciation, encouragement, and kind words.

Examples:

  • Give a compliment to your loved ones daily

  • Give compliments about your loved ones in front of friends and family

  • Email or text how much you appreciate your loved ones


2. Quality Time

Showing and receiving Love by focusing on and spending time doing something with your loved one.

Examples:

  • Give focused attention (put the cell phones away and turn off the TV)

  • Provide quality conversation. Share and listen as you both talk about thoughts, feelings, and experiences

  • Spend time together alone, with the children, or friends


3. Receiving Gifts

A gift shows someone special that you were thinking of them, which shows your Love.

Examples:

  • Keep a gift idea notebook, anytime you think of a meaningful gift for your loved one, write it down. That way you always have a thoughtful gift for special occasions

  • When you go to the store or out on an errand, keep an eye out for a special treat that you know your loved one will like

  • Your presence during a difficult time can be a great gift


4. Acts of Service

To show and receive Love by doing things for your loved one.

Examples:

  • Ask your loved one to make a list of chores that need to be done and have them label it from 1-10 ranked in importance

  • Having a positive attitude when they ask for help

  • If you are short on time and have the money, you can hire someone to get the chores done


5. Physical Touch

Using touch, holding hands, hugging and kissing as a way to show and receive Love.