I believe that Love is not a feeling but an action. It's important to show our loved ones that we care about their needs. Each person is beautifully unique and receives love in their own way. To create a closer relationship with your partner, children, and friends, it is essential to define what Love looks like for them. Once we understand what Love looks like to the crucial people in our lives, we then need to take the time to learn and speak their love language.
Keep Your Love Tank Full
A few years ago, I came across the book The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts and The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman. These books shared the secret on how to create a strong relationship with those around me. I started watching my loved ones, trying to figure out what their primary love language was.
Earlier this year, I found that they had a quiz! I was so excited. I took the quiz. I had my kids take the quiz and shared it with my whole office. Today I get to share it with you! Click here to find out what your love language is.
5 Love Languages
Gary Chapman describes that there are five different ways that you can show Love. You will find that one or two languages will be more influential and will fill one's love tank more than others.
1. Words of Affirmation
Showing and receiving Love through words of appreciation, encouragement, and kind words.
Give a compliment to your loved ones daily
Give compliments about your loved ones in front of friends and family
Email or text how much you appreciate your loved ones
2. Quality Time
Showing and receiving Love by focusing on and spending time doing something with your loved one.
Give focused attention (put the cell phones away and turn off the TV)
Provide quality conversation. Share and listen as you both talk about thoughts, feelings, and experiences
Spend time together alone, with the children, or friends
3. Receiving Gifts
A gift shows someone special that you were thinking of them, which shows your Love.
Keep a gift idea notebook, anytime you think of a meaningful gift for your loved one, write it down. That way you always have a thoughtful gift for special occasions
When you go to the store or out on an errand, keep an eye out for a special treat that you know your loved one will like
Your presence during a difficult time can be a great gift
4. Acts of Service
To show and receive Love by doing things for your loved one.
Ask your loved one to make a list of chores that need to be done and have them label it from 1-10 ranked in importance
Having a positive attitude when they ask for help
If you are short on time and have the money, you can hire someone to get the chores done
5. Physical Touch
Using touch, holding hands, hugging and kissing as a way to show and receive Love.
Hold hands, cuddle on the couch and gentle caresses throughout the day
When shopping for gifts, look for items that will bring comfort: a soft shirt, cozy slippers, a warm blanket
As humans, we long to connect with others. It does not matter if you are married, dating, or looking to create a stronger relationship within yourself. Understanding the ways that you need to receive and give Love will help you get your needs met.
Learning what your love language is will allow you to help your loved ones fill your love tank. Understanding your children's love language will allow you to create a stronger bond. Practicing your partner's love language will help strengthen your relationship.
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